If it weren't for bad luck i'd have no luck at all ... or so the saying goes. This statement is completely dis-empowering and a function of our perception more than anything.
It's easy to dwell on the negative, to focus on circumstance as a means to justify our station in life. Why we aren't someplace we should be, or why we didn't get something we wanted.
On the flip side of this, when I perceive that I am doing well -- look at me I get things done! How much of this success am I attributing to "luck?" For most people, probably very little.
Here's how it goes: When things go my way, when my outcomes resemble my expectations -- it's because of me. It is because of how smart I am, how hard I work, how much kale I consume, etc. When things go against me, when I struggle, when my life falls short of what I expected -- it's somebody else's fault. It's bad luck. My parents were big boned, etc.
Our perception becomes reality, and the meaning we assign to things create those perceptions. The quality of our life boils down to how we filter things and the choices we make in deciding how to interpret life as it unfolds.
Consider this the next time you face a set back, it's not the end of you, it's an opportunity to grow. If you adopt this as your mindset I promise your life will improve in ways you can't imagine.
Also -- when you experience your next big win -- take note to think about all the people who helped you get there. Consider all the random things that had to line up for that to happen. Gratitude and humility go a long way.
Happy St. Patty's Day