According to Meriam-Webster, mansplaining is part of their “Words We’re Watching” category. Basically mansplaining (or womansplaining to be gender equal) is when a man condescendingly explains something to a woman (whether he realizes it or not) – often in situations where she may have more direct knowledge of the subject.
I’m posting this blog because one of my colleagues recently “hinted” (strongly) that I do this to her… At first I thought - No I don't! That's stupid... oops.
Remember what I do here is talk to people about their lives. I would never talk condescendingly to a client. I pride myself at not judging people or their situations. This is why my clients typically say they find no one like me – no one else who understands. I know I’m good at this. So, to find that my close colleague feels that I don’t give her the same courtesy - made me think...
I help clients figure out a plan of action to make things better. Thus far the consensus is that I’m pretty good at listening, assessing and helping all sorts of people come to a workable solution to their concerns.
My colleague is aware that I’m posting this about her, well us. It is something we will need to work on if our work relationship will continue strong. I appreciate that she works for close-to-nothing to help TTJA succeed.
I just wanted to let you know that everyone has issues with relationship conversations. I thought sharing a little of myself will help you see I’m a person too.
I can help you because I walk the walk. I am a man of my word. I am open and honest. I listen, assess, analyze and take it to heart when someone says they feel like I’m belittling or not fully respecting them, their feelings or ideas. I know that my colleague has a good intuition, I know that she understands elements of running my business much more than I do. I need to work harder on making sure that the way I talk to her shows my respect for her entire being. I’ll keep you posted.