Before you call me a hypocrite, I am no expert (see my last blog post), however, if there was one subject I feel like I was nearly an expert on -- like I was sort of expert"ish." It would be in the area of identifying manipulative people... more specifically - if your romantic partner is a manipulator.
Here are some behavioral characteristics of manipulative people that might give you pause.
3.) Emotionally Abusive
The person you fell in love with? That's not really them. That person was a product of their imagination used to lure you in. Oh sure they can go back to that "person" when they need something from you or when it serves their interests, but the sweet, loving, kind, caring person was just a clever ruse. Now you're at their mercy. They will make you feel awful most of the time because they feel awful. You will have a front seat ride on their roller coaster. Getting off the ride can feel impossible -- they have you trapped -- and they know it.
Still not sure if your lovebug is a manipulator, or maybe you need help escaping from your manipulator -- i'm still no expert - but I do know I can help.