"Each bruise is a lesson. Each lesson makes us better." Syrio Forel, a Game of Thrones character.
I love this quote for its simple brilliance. There are a million versions of it floating around and whenever I see one, i pause to consider it.
It's never not true.
The problem, is appreciating it and being able to recognize its big picture implications when you're in that period of suffering and setback.
When you're in that moment, whether it's an hour or a day or a year ... and the pain grabs you like a boa constrictor trying to suck the air out of you. There's this feeling of hopelessness or despair -- you're overwhelmed and feel your world caving in. Whatever you wanted or needed isn't happening, despite your best efforts.
We've all been there at one point or another.
But eventually something happens, the suffering wanes and you move on from it - you're probably better for the experience.
Things are always clearer after the fact and life seems easier when viewed from the rear view mirror.
Often times we'll look back on a particularly challenging time in our lives and feel grateful things happened the way they did. Maybe a relationship ended badly, but it paved the way for a new one. Maybe you didn't get that job you really wanted but you wound up with an even better one.
One of my pet sayings is "growth thru pain."
It's having the experience and knowledge to understand that life is always happening for us, not to us. The pain we experience today becomes the joy we experience tomorrow. I promise.